I saw this really interesting talkshow today. Yes, there ARE interesting talkshow's and yes, there ARE interesting topics being discussed. It just seems like the boring topics outnumber the interesting topics about a gazillion to one. So i'm lucky.
Back to the topic. I saw this really interesting talkshow today. It was interviewing an author that was comparing the role of men in this day and age with the men of yesteryears. According to him, men today have it tough. They have to work, pay the mortgage, be men and when they come home, they have to spend time with the family and help with dinner! Gasp of horror! Oh, the cruelty! How could you expect the poor man to spend time with his children and help with dinner? It's just absurd!!
Now, I'm grinning while listening to this man and thinking, what a wimp. Yes, men work hard. Yes, they deserve to relax at home. But.....why should they view spending time with the family and pulling their own weight at home a chore? If men really say they love their wives and family, shouldn't it be rewarding for them to play their part of father and husband? The host commented on his father's life in the 70's.......about how he would come home after a hard day's work and find dinner waiting and the children all fed and bathed and put to bed. His wife would be all made up and pretty and waiting and he'd slump in a chair and be pampered. What happened to all that?? Nowadays, men come home exhausted to find their children all hyper from the day's sugar intake, dinner isn't done cos the wife is working late and there's no one to fetch him his slippers.
Excuuse me! If this isn't called whining, I don't know what it. I was nearly rolling on the floor listening to this man! HAHAHA these are the men that curse female equality because it's caused them to lose their pampering! Shame on you! If you truly loved your wife, you would be glad that she's got a job where she can show off her talents and be rewarded for it. You wouldn't begrudge her the opportunity of tasting your cooking once in a while. If you loved your children, you wouldn't see it as a chore to bath them and feed them and play with them.
But seriously, are we women taking this 'female equality' thing a little too far? Are we campaigning a little too hard for 'women's rights'?? I mean sure, it's great we get to vote and get equal pay as men. But all in all, I just want to be swept off my feet and be treated like a lil women. Cos that's what I am. A women. Female. The fairer sex. We complain that they don't treat us as equals and then complain when they don't open the door for us. We burn our bras and argue for equal pay.......and still treat the male as the primary provider for the family. We want flowers and chocolate for no reason at all. We want to be pampered and made to feel special. We want special treatment for being a girl. Then all hell breaks lose because we WERE treated like a girl. Suddenly, we want to be treated as men's equal. But hang on, didn't we just say we wanted special treatment for being a girl?? I'm confused. There's just no pleasing us. Where do we draw the line between the two? Am I the one being confused? Am I an embarressment to the female population for thinking this way?
I hope to get some feedback. I'd like to know what the ladies think.
Wednesday 28 February 2007
testing the water
a friend suggested that i try blogging as a therapeutic way of venting my frustrations. I thought it was because she couldn't take my whining anymore and wanted to get me off her back. ouch that hurt. but i knew she'd never do that cos she just isn't that kinda person. so i called her and asked about this whole bloggin business. her reply was that there won't always be someone around to hear me whine. so why not just get an outlet and vent all my frustrations out? sounds reasonable. got me thinking too. she's right, u know. i'm here all alone, separated from my friends.....have a hell of a lot to whine about. hehe maybe i should give her a break and let the world suffer from my rantings!!! beware world.....get ready to rumble!!
little background so ppl out there will understand my rantings. i'm actually in the UK but originally from a humble lil country somewhere in the South China Sea. had a good life there but after a lot of thinking, and a whole lot of 'repeated nudging' by my parents, i decided to pack my bags and venture north to a land where ppl say has an abundance of work. u know, sorta like how ppl flocked to America, Land of the Free. so here i am, stuck being a parasite in my brother's house, attempting to find work in this country. I won't bore u with details but let's just say that I found it tough being in a whole new environment, away from my friends and family. sure, big bro is here, but we've never been close and anyway, one brother does not a group of friends make.
so many times i've wondered what the heck i'm doing here. What did i hope to achieve by throwing away my job (which, by the way, i enjoyed very much) and coming to a foreign land and starting from scratch. Do we really need to be this ambitious in life? Do I REALLY need to be so ambitious? Isn't it enough that we have a good job with a stable income that gives us a comfortable life? Must we always strive to be better than what we are now? I've asked myself all these questions and yet, have not come on any answers. We see successful businessmen in the news, telling inspirational stories about how they were saved fr the brink of bankruptcy due to one brilliant idea. How they risked it all just for that one opportunity of a lifetime. And then, there are those that preach about how money isn't everything. The cancer survivors or near-death experienced survivors that say health is everything and that as long as they are healthy, it's heaven on earth for them.
But seriously, what place does ambition play in society? would the telephone have been invented if Mr Bell was content writing snail mail or yelling his grocery list out the window? Would space shuttles have been invented and Neil Armstrong been able to bounce about the moon if someone out there didn't dream of reaching for the stars?? Would we have ventured out of our caves with our bats in hand and put our opposable thumbs to good use if we were 'content with life'?
(Bear with me, I told u I like to rant.)
So, after many sleepless nights and many bus rides staring out the window, i've come to the conclusion that ambition IS necessary in society. It's just a matter of what you do with it. Some people say, 'Yup I'm gonna build me a space shuttle thingamabob.' Then they go watch tv and never build the darn thing cos well, there's always tomorrow. And then there's the people that drop everything they've been doing and go right out and blast off into space with their shuttle thingamabob. So, u either belong in category 1 or category 2. whichever u are, it doesn't matter. cos we can't all be in the same category. if we all wanted to invent new things, who would buy the things already invented? If we all wanted to be businessmen, who would make up the market?
I still haven't made up my mind which category I belong to. The jury is still out on that one. I guess now I have something new to think about on the bus everyday.
little background so ppl out there will understand my rantings. i'm actually in the UK but originally from a humble lil country somewhere in the South China Sea. had a good life there but after a lot of thinking, and a whole lot of 'repeated nudging' by my parents, i decided to pack my bags and venture north to a land where ppl say has an abundance of work. u know, sorta like how ppl flocked to America, Land of the Free. so here i am, stuck being a parasite in my brother's house, attempting to find work in this country. I won't bore u with details but let's just say that I found it tough being in a whole new environment, away from my friends and family. sure, big bro is here, but we've never been close and anyway, one brother does not a group of friends make.
so many times i've wondered what the heck i'm doing here. What did i hope to achieve by throwing away my job (which, by the way, i enjoyed very much) and coming to a foreign land and starting from scratch. Do we really need to be this ambitious in life? Do I REALLY need to be so ambitious? Isn't it enough that we have a good job with a stable income that gives us a comfortable life? Must we always strive to be better than what we are now? I've asked myself all these questions and yet, have not come on any answers. We see successful businessmen in the news, telling inspirational stories about how they were saved fr the brink of bankruptcy due to one brilliant idea. How they risked it all just for that one opportunity of a lifetime. And then, there are those that preach about how money isn't everything. The cancer survivors or near-death experienced survivors that say health is everything and that as long as they are healthy, it's heaven on earth for them.
But seriously, what place does ambition play in society? would the telephone have been invented if Mr Bell was content writing snail mail or yelling his grocery list out the window? Would space shuttles have been invented and Neil Armstrong been able to bounce about the moon if someone out there didn't dream of reaching for the stars?? Would we have ventured out of our caves with our bats in hand and put our opposable thumbs to good use if we were 'content with life'?
(Bear with me, I told u I like to rant.)
So, after many sleepless nights and many bus rides staring out the window, i've come to the conclusion that ambition IS necessary in society. It's just a matter of what you do with it. Some people say, 'Yup I'm gonna build me a space shuttle thingamabob.' Then they go watch tv and never build the darn thing cos well, there's always tomorrow. And then there's the people that drop everything they've been doing and go right out and blast off into space with their shuttle thingamabob. So, u either belong in category 1 or category 2. whichever u are, it doesn't matter. cos we can't all be in the same category. if we all wanted to invent new things, who would buy the things already invented? If we all wanted to be businessmen, who would make up the market?
I still haven't made up my mind which category I belong to. The jury is still out on that one. I guess now I have something new to think about on the bus everyday.
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